Healing Isn’t Slow, Avoidance Is: The Truth About Emotional Momentum
There is a myth in healing culture that growth takes years.
It doesn’t.
Avoidance takes years.
Distraction takes years.
Self-abandonment takes years.
Pretending you’re okay takes years.
Healing, when you actually let yourself do it,
is fast.
Uncomfortable — but fast.
I didn’t spend five years healing from my relationship.
I spent five years surviving it.
I spent five years:
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Minimising my pain
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Rationalising disrespect
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Excusing emotional neglect
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Carrying responsibility that wasn’t mine
I wasn’t healing slowly —
I was avoiding loudly.
And avoidance is heavy.
Avoidance feels like:
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Numbness
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Fatigue
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Overthinking
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Shutdown
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Emotional isolation
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A life so busy you don’t have to feel it
Avoidance wears a mask that looks like strength.
But the body knows the truth.
Every time I tried to “just push through,”
my nervous system pushed back.
Anxiety.
Stomach tightness.
Sleepless nights.
Panic attacks.
Low immunity.
Not because I was weak —
but because I was unsupported.
Healing doesn’t require time.
Healing requires safety.
Healing requires structure.
Healing requires presence.
Healing requires someone to see you
without requiring you to justify your pain.
When I finally began healing — supported, held, and resourced —
my life shifted faster in 12 weeks than it had in 12 years.
Not because I was suddenly capable —
but because I wasn’t pretending anymore.
People don’t heal slowly because they’re broken.
People heal slowly because they’re alone.
We don’t accelerate because we’re brave.
We accelerate because we’re supported.
You’re not struggling with time.
You’re struggling with isolation.
If you’re exhausted from carrying emotional weight alone,
and you want momentum instead of maintenance,
message RESET
and I’ll send you a grounding practice
to help you release what’s been weighing you down.
Not because you’re fragile —
but because you’re finally done pretending you don’t feel it.
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