Good Girls Don’t Leave. Queens Do.
3 Self-Worth Practices That Helped Me Rise After Divorce
I didn’t leave my marriage because I was weak.
I left because I was done being small.
For too long, I wore the mask of the “good girl.”
The quiet one. The peacemaker. The one who stayed.
So when I left my marriage, the guilt nearly swallowed me whole.
Because good girls don’t walk away… right?
But here’s what I’ve learned:
Good girls shrink. Queens rise.
And sometimes, the most powerful thing a woman can do is walk away from the life she outgrew.
Divorce didn’t destroy me. It detonated the cage I was never meant to live in.
It forced me to meet the version of myself I had buried beneath roles, routines, and rules that were never mine.
And when I chose to walk away, I didn’t just leave a marriage.
I claimed my throne.
These 3 self-worth practices weren’t just healing tools.
They were battle cries. Anchors. And eventually, wings.
They helped me rebuild from the ashes — and rise as a woman who now leads herself.
1. Mirror Work: Seeing Myself Again
At first, I avoided mirrors.
I didn’t like the tired eyes, the sagging shoulders, the heaviness I saw.
But I knew — if I wanted to rise, I had to stop hiding from my own reflection.
So I started small:
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One hand on my heart
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One truth spoken aloud
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Every single day
“I am still here. I am still worthy. I am not done becoming.”
It was awkward. Then it was emotional. Then it was sacred.
Every time I looked in the mirror, I started to see me again.
2. Burning the Old Rulebook
There were so many silent rules I’d lived by:
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Don’t make a scene
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Don’t want too much
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Don’t take up space
No one told me I could break them. So I did.
I rewrote the script:
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I am allowed to want more.
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I am allowed to grow past who they knew me as.
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I do not need permission to be powerful.
“I’m not waiting for someone to choose me. I’m choosing me.”
This wasn’t rebellion. It was returning.
Returning to the version of me that had always existed underneath the conditioning.
3. Celebrating Every Brave Yes
After divorce, even the smallest wins felt monumental:
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Cooking what I loved
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Laughing at my own jokes
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Saying no without a 3-paragraph explanation
These weren’t surface-level habits. They were sacred reclamations.
Every act of self-honour became a ceremony:
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Candles lit for solo dinners
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Bold lipstick worn just for me
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Dances in the kitchen with no one watching
“Every choice I make for me is a crown I place back on my head.”
Because we don’t rise all at once.
We rise choice by choice. Voice by voice. Breath by breath.
Final Words: You Were Never Just a Good Girl
You were always a queen.
You just needed to remember your crown.
So here’s your reminder:
You are not too late.
You are not too much.
You are not behind.You are rising.
You are rewriting.
You are royalty.
And you are not alone.
👉 DM me the word THRIVE and I’ll send you my free Reset & Rebuild Starter Toolkit — with the exact tools I used to reclaim my voice, my value, and my future.
Because good girls don’t leave.
Queens do.
And we never look back.