Tiny shifts. Big energy. Start with just one.
When you’ve been through a breakup — especially a long-term one — confidence doesn’t just bounce back.
It drips. It flickers. It hides behind overthinking, people-pleasing, or fear of being “too much” (or not enough).
But here's the truth I teach in Thrive After Love:
Confidence isn’t about being loud. It’s about keeping promises to yourself — especially the small ones.
These aren't grand, performative gestures. No need to reinvent your whole life overnight.
They’re micro-promises — tiny actions you choose and follow through on. That’s what rebuilds trust with yourself.
That’s where real confidence is born.
Here are 3 you can start with today:
1. “I will speak kindly to myself — even when I mess up.”
You will not get everything right. You will feel wobbly. You will second-guess.
And that’s okay. You are not a robot. You’re a human being learning to re-center in a new version of yourself.
Instead of spiraling into “Why did I do that?” or “What’s wrong with me?”
Try:
“That was hard. But I did my best with what I had.”
“That felt messy — but I’m proud of myself for showing up.”
Your inner voice should sound like someone you’d want beside you.
2. “I will do one nourishing thing for my body each day.”
This isn’t about diets or 10k steps. This is about embodiment. Grounding. A soft return to self.
Start tiny. Examples:
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Drink a full glass of water with both hands and pause before reaching for your phone again.
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Take a 2-minute stretch break between tasks.
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Eat one thing that feels comforting and nourishing — not rushed or guilt-laced.
Every time you choose your body, you send it a message:
“I’ve got you.”
3. “I will celebrate the small wins — and mean it.”
Confidence grows when you give yourself credit.
Did you speak your truth in a tough convo? Win.
Did you take a nap instead of doom-scrolling? Win.
Did you not reply to the ex who doesn’t deserve access to your peace? Win.
These aren’t little. They’re everything.
Keep a “daily win” list in your Notes app. Or just whisper them before bed.
Let them land. Let yourself feel proud. Then… do it again tomorrow.
You Don’t Need a Full Plan. You Just Need One Step.
Confidence won’t come from outside validation. It comes from you showing up — gently, bravely — for yourself.
These micro-promises are the beginning.
And if you’re tired of doing it alone? I get it.
That’s what my Empowerment Pathway™ is for — real, safe support as you rebuild your self-trust, identity, and power after love.
Because you deserve to feel proud of yourself again.